Peter Volkofsky | Author & Life Coach

Peter Volkofsky is an author, spoken word poet and life coach. In 2017, Peter published his thriller Mia's Magic Wand. In 2015 he published Beautiful Quest as an Ark House imprint. Peter has been married to his wife Penelope for thirty-three years and together they have reared seven children.

Catalytic (cat•a•lyt•ic)

(adj.) a process that precipitates an event

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Individuals and teams reaching their goals.

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the life-long father & son integrity conversation

 

Western society is responsible for a disease between fathers and sons. Here's how it starts: one day, at a time when the son is flexing his independence and being given more freedom by his parents, the father asks his son to do something. The boy doesn't and in the busy cloud of txt-msg-www-http://:) it's forgotten and the father instinctively lets it go and does it himself without saying anything. The father is supposed to be commended for his tolerance and grace, but a lesson about being trusted, about responsibility and respect has just been lost on the boy—both of them now have a disease called lack of integrity in a relationship. Without knowing how it happened the father loses respect for himself and the boy now no longer respects his father. It gets to the stage where the father feels like he has to apologise for asking his son to do anything, ever, and the son loses any sensitivity to the idea of taking the initiative to help his dad with anything because for some strange reason, it&
#39;s all too hard. It's probably why there's even a commandment that says, 'Children, honour your parents'.

In the end the only way ahead is an honest conversation and forgiveness on both sides—from the father because of his failure to love his son and on the son's side for failing to honour his father. This conversation might have to happen several times during their life time, sometimes initiated by the son and at other times initiated by the father.

Having gone there, the way can still be spoiled if the father attempts to hold all this over the head of his son so that he can get cooperation every time he asks him to do something. As the boy is growing up there must still be room for negotiation and saying 'No' in order for integrity to exist but the son must also understand that the father is now in a permanent position of weakness and vulnerability in the same kind of way as the Creator was in the Garden of Eden, so committed to the free will of the man that even he would be silent and gamble all of his chips on love or nothing—waiting for Adam to make the call.

(from MS 501A Making Disciples -- Cornerstone Community)



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Learn To Doubt

 

For those who will not listen

Truth will not stand and fight,

He’ll ride out into the night.

Now he’s out there: in the dark,

A smashing, staring, angry shark.

The time’s nearly out, let’s hope they learn to doubt.’ (plv)

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natural spirituality

That easy feeling of finally being mature enough to be at ease in the company of the ungodly is sometimes a sign, not of letting 'your spiritual life be natural and your natural life be spiritual', but of sin. Beware this feeling of enjoying a fresh sense of honesty and frankness. It could be that in getting relevant and missional by talking their language and singing their songs, you haven't just found your incarnational place in the world, but rather, as Screwtape says: 'The world has found its place in you.' Maybe it's time to load up that old Keith Green CD onto your iPOd and wear one of those embarrassing Jesus T-shirts.